Issues with dating a recovering alcoholic
Alcoholism is considered to be an illness or a disease.How could letting go of someone who is sick possibly work? Eventually confusion about this subject will disappear.As long as we continue to place big cushions underneath them when they fall, the hurts in their lives will never be great enough for them to stop drinking or doing drugs.You can read this post about how to stop enabling an alcoholic to gain insight on what to do to help them hit their bottom.Remember anger and anxiety are the weapons of the alcoholic.Just knowing in our hearts, the truth is “we love them,” is going to have to be good enough for me and you.After all haven’t we always cared for them when they caught the flu or a cold and every-time they fell and hurt themselves?
We are just saying; “God I can’t-you can-so I’m going to let you.” This is where faith is born, in letting go of the alcoholic in our lives.
The only choices we have are to love them unconditionally and continue letting go of them and putting them in God’s hands everyday.
Even though they are our kids, grand-children, spouses, friends or close relatives and we want the best for them, they must choose the best for themselves.
Loving our children, spouses and friends seems to be something that we “do” naturally.
Letting go of the alcoholic means that we must learn to love them differently.